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Fall Reading List….Suggestions?


One of my four favorite times of year, Fall is on it’s way! Time for seasons to change, time for new books!!

I will be going on a shopping spree in a couple weeks to purchase books to read this fall. Anyone would laugh at my excitement, rivaling any child finding a stack of gift-wrapped presents with her name on the tags. I’ve never understood the power books have over me, the uncontrollable, involuntary draw to them. When I imagine heaven, I see Barnes and Noble. Ok that may be an exaggeration, but I guarantee when I get to heaven, there will be well stocked bookshelves.

I tried to get into the e-book craze. I completely understand the many benefits, and do admit to having a couple e-books stashed on my smart phone for those unexpected waiting room delays, but just can’t let go of the magic of physical books.

There is just something about the weight of the book in my hand, the smooth feel of the cover, the sound of the pages. Before I jump in to the story I take time to appreciate the colors on the cover and the print of the blurbs on the back and sleeve. Then turning the first page, reading the first words…. I’m completely enchanted by books!

But back to the subject at hand – it will soon be time for my fall book shopping event, and… HELP!

I would love suggestions of what to read next. I currently have a list of  76 books that have struck my interest. I need to knock that down to 10-15.

Help me make a short list. What good books have you read lately or are planning to read? What authors are you currently into?

A comment below with a blurb about your current reading suggestions would be helpful and appreciated!

Thanks, and Happy Reading!

The Laws of Attraction… aka You Get What You Ask For


I believe in karma. I believe what goes around comes around. I believe you get exactly what you ask for in life – so you need to be aware of what you are asking for.

You may be raising your hands to the sky, begging for better luck, for friends who love and support you, for a rewarding job with bosses and co-workers who value and respect you, for financial security… and so on. But your vocal request only lasts for a second. What is the lasting message you are putting out to the world?

Do you slouch or sit and stand up straight? Do you shuffle and drag your feet as you move through your day, or do you step lively and with purpose? Do you show up to the job on time each day, and show pride in your work?

This is the real message you are sending to the world. This is the message the world responds to. The fact is, you get what you ask for. If you are the sloucher, the foot shuffler, you will likely have a slow paced, non-eventful life, lacking in purpose and excitement for the present and future. Where as the person who stands tall and walks through their day, and life, with excitement and purpose – attracts the same. Their life is almost certainly full of exciting events, constantly progressing forward toward the goals they desire -while enjoying each day of the journey.

In the same way, the person who shows up late to work, turns in careless assignments because this is not their dream job so they just do not care, will receive the same. They may not get fired because they do, after all, show up and turn in work. But guaranteed, they will not get respect and recognition, let alone promotion.

Consider the people in your life. A positive, upbeat, going somewhere person is only going to be able to tolerate a complainer and grumbler, someone who talks poorly of others and themselves, for very long. Who is going to be attracted to the grumbler? Another grumbler. Misery loves company? It’s true.

If you want good things to happen in your life, good friends, good job, happy home, and a fun and enjoyable life – try being that person. Stop the whining and complaining. Truth is even the upbeat, positive person has crap storms from time to time. They just do not let it take over their life. So try it. Push back the negative thoughts. Fill your head with thoughts that make you happy. Smile. Show up to life like you mean it by getting up on time each day, wash and dress for the event of the day. Stand tall and walk like you have a purpose. Be a good friend, keep you word. Go one step father than required on your work assignments. Smile!

You don’t have to feel positive and upbeat to act like it. Another great saying? Fake it ’til you make it!

Give it a try and watch your life improve. (Another little tip: it works for attracting a mate also.  Start being the kind of person you want to attract, and he or she will come running.)

Folks Are Wrong, And That’s Ok


One of the first rules of writing is to find a quiet, comfortable location free of distractions. One of the last rules is to throw out all the rules and do whatever works best for you.  That’s the wonderful freedom of writing.

I do my best writing when I’m nowhere near the computer. Or pen and paper. Or stick in the dirt…. Whatever. Driving, watching a sunset, staring at the ceiling, doing dishes all frequently produce some of my best words. I do my best thinking when I don’t focus too hard, when there is distraction. When I am in front of the computer, I always have the TV on for background noise.

Last night I was happily typing away, adding another scene to the novel I’m attempting to write, when something on the TV caught my ear. I do not know the program, who was speaking, or even the context of the conversation, but I heard these words, “It’s OK to let other people be wrong.”

This was one of those rare life changing moments. Revelation. It’s ok to let other people be wrong. Translation: you do not need to correct people!

This statement might evoke a simple ‘doh!’ from most of you, but it was earthshattering news to me. I have been guilty of chronic correcting! I am deeply embarrassed. The number of people I must have annoyed and irritated!

I’d like to say that my heart was always in the right place, my intentions were always good, but truth is I never gave it a second thought.

In my attempt to be a person of integrity, it has always been important to me that folks could count on my word. If I said I would do something, I got it done. If I spoke, my words were accurate and true. If asked something I was unsure of, I would prefer to not answer than to guess and be wrong. Because of this, I’ve always welcomed correction. I’ve never viewed it as criticism, rather simply giving me correct information so going forward, I could be accurate too.

Because I felt this way, I’ve always assumed everyone else has too. Well you know what they say about the word ‘assume’. Break it down… ass/u/me. I realize now that this is a case where ‘do unto others…’ definitely does not apply.

Hearing this simple anonymous statement on late-night TV, I now understand.  I apologize to everyone I have offended with my unsolicited ‘information’ and ‘help’. I now understand it is not my responsibility, is in fact is very inappropriate, to correct… anyone.

It’s OK to let other people be wrong.